In a secular society it is inevitable for gay marriage to be legalized. Supporters will rally behind cries of 'Equal Right for All' and any argument of "traditional" or "religious" beliefs will be condemned as archaic, hateful, and discriminatory. I think it is absolutely inevitable. But maybe my faith is weak.
As a Christ follower, however, my beliefs do not (and should not) waiver. It would be unacceptable for you to expect them to. Should my religion, my guiding Holy text, be reduced to an emotional opinion that sways with the lightest breeze of peer pressure? Surely not.
Although, I must clarify some things. As a person who believes that homosexual relationships are equally sinful as any that engage in premarital sex, I also believe they are as sinful as people who lie, curse and have weak faith. I hate all groups equally. Which is to say I hate none of them at all, because I surely love myself.
The problem is, rebuke is often confused for hate. Rebuke is a sharp word for calling out wrong behavior, it does not imply hatred. Disappointment, perhaps, but not hate. We now have a culture that mistakes laws or commandments that rebuke an action or a people's behavior as "God loving gays less" (or not at all).
This is so categorically untrue it is literally making my head hurt. But I'll tell you why we've reached this point in our society.
When your moral stance is that every law and decision should serve the sole purpose of making each individual as happy as they can be, subscribing to their emotional whims, you're doing it wrong.
We've lost our worldview, sacrificing it for individualism.
I believe the Bible lays the foundation for the most successful society we can live in. Mainly because it was inspired by the very God who created humans and the ability to conceive society. Jesus never said, "I love you, therefore do whatever makes you happy even if it is sin in my eyes."
I believe the most egregious failures in our society do not stem from an institution failing us (and certainly not from gay people), but from a people who are broken and living in sin. When we procreate we become parents who fail our children. We can all agree we've seen children raised without accountability for their actions. Excuses are easily made for them and the responsibility of parenting is dodged, excused and passed on to someone else if possible.
Men fail women because they are afraid of responsibility and never learned the role of being a man in the first place. Women fail men appealing to their desires to receive vacant and fleeting attention that is a meager, and temporary, substitute for love.
Children are birthed who lack strong guidance and mature parents to teach them how to contribute to society and they are set loose on the world without any inclination of what responsibility means.
We fail each other.
We fail to learn what good parenting is, and we pass it on to our children. And now we have a society crying out to appease individuals, instead of desperately trying to figure out how to sustain this generation and set the next one up for success.
In life hard decisions must be made. Unpopular ones even. But when they align with the Holy Bible I will be unwavering in my commitment to it. To do anything else would sacrifice my entire relationship with Christ.
I am a Christ follower. I cannot call myself that and also say I support gay marriage. One of those two things would be a lie, or at the very least, compromised.
It does not mean I hate gay people. I believe marriage is a construct made for more than just happiness. It should, (although the aforementioned failures of accountability have led to easy divorces, the normality of premarital sex, and the availability of abortions which has bastardized the whole system), it should, however, be procreating whole families who teach children how to become functional and beneficial members of society. Who learn to help others, support the economy, earn a living and have a family for themselves. Marriage should pass on a moral code that makes this place one worth living in. I believe this is only done by a man and a woman, as designed by the God of the universe.
Just because it has failed many thus far does not mean I should sacrifice my belief, hope and determination to make it what it was meant to be. Should I give up because my faith is weak? Because I run the risk of being called bigoted?
Yet I see the legalization of gay marriage to be inevitable. We no longer live in a nation where the majority subscribe to a higher, godly calling. We live in a nation that subscribes to the individual and calls it justice for all. I simply cannot waiver on my belief because it is what you want to hear.
But, surely, disagreement and hate are separate things entirely.